Thread: Did i do the right thing regarding my ex-girlfriend? Guilt destroying me?

For years i've been hung up over my ex girlfriend

she was such an awesome girlfriend, kind, sweet, did everything for me, sex was amazing, lifted etc but the issues.. she had many many big red flags god where do i begin...

she'd been with a tonne of dudes sexual partner count prbably 60+, she dressed terribly.. really really skank,, she told me her dad was a cheater and hears him on the phone talking to other guys... tells me her ex cleand up her poop and made her squirt... jsut so many ****ed up things.. complete over sharing.. her scial media was really slooty.. My mum met her and said she seemed really immature and "trashy".. she was super insecure.. acted skanky etc.

so all these bad things as well.. i thought to myselfi cant have a srs reltionship with a girl like this so i just kept inviting her over and let her take me ot for dates and put 0 effort in s she eventually left
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ive felt abd about it for eyars coz i loved her

Originally Posted by ALEXH-

I'm pretty confused by your post. You loved her yet you put 0 effort in? It's been years? Move on bro and commit to someone who you actually care about.

Yes i loved her but put 0 effort in because of the many things she told me/ the way she acted / trashy etc.

i was afraid to commit and tret her as a long term gf i loved her tho

Originally Posted by Tonyy926

Good move IMO. CBA with those kinds of girls besides for the short term broski

I loved this girl, 10/10 banter, super fun,felt like my best friend
but man

the attention whore social media, the way she dressed (super skanky) the things she told me was such a turn off i thought i cant take this girl seriously i relly want to but i cant

Pics or it didnt happen

Originally Posted by Tonyy926

Tons of girls will give you those same vibes bro. Maybe not every girl, but many will. Trust me

You can't force yourself to ignore those things. I wouldn't. It isn't your fault bruh

Cheers bro

So i guess i made the right decision

it's like hypothetical

you meet a girl shes, fun, shes cute, similar hobbies, fal in love

but she tells u she used to do porn.. she acts super immature.. she acts super slooty.. she acts really trasht and u start thinking man... whats wrong with her?

Originally Posted by WiseOldApe

That's the thing about falling in love, you can't choose it, it chooses you.

That's what makes love hard, difficult, and the greatest feeling ever - the fact that we have no choice in the matter, but boy does it feel good.

She literally think's that I am pathetic, yet I cannot help but love her.

And because of that, I have no regrets about what I have and will do with other women.

I don't understand your last line?

My ex doesn't care or even think of me like yours i guess.

I guess yu're right we can't help who wefall in love with.. maybe i should of treated her better...

what cn ya do?

Originally Posted by WiseOldApe

How do you know she doesn't?

I think she does, hence why you get those sharp pains in your chest.

I have those as well, and at this point, I get those from talking to people, and usually when I see a little facial expression change in their face to signal a negative emotion, I feel the sharp pain in the chest. I've had the same pain, turned around and she was looking at me. I've been getting those pains randomly through the last year and a half.

I reckon she still thinks of you and that's what that pain is.

Keep working on your self dude, it's the best.

I can actually tell when a chick wants to bang and can intuit what other people are thinking, etc.

We're all one consciousness - break free of the illusion.

If she did, they would reach out to us? why live in fantasy world and act like they care or even remember us.


How can i ever forgive myself? a women i loved i treted like nothing... i was too scared t love someone with so many issues and "red flags'

I'm currently trying to decide this same thing. The girl definitely has some red flags, but is super fun(also great banter) and is very family oriented and would present very well in front of family. Great manners and Intelligent, etc.

She is from a different country so I'm wondering if some of the red flags might be related to miscommunication due to cultural/language differences, and I almost cut her off after the last time we traveled together a week ago due to lack of communication in a few areas and her doing some questionable things without talking to me about it. But we were partying every day all day and I was drunk and doing drugs pretty much every day during this trip which made communication more difficult, and earlier this year I spent time with her in a non-party setting and we were absolutely great together. At the very least, I'm going to keep her around as a travel buddy for the foreseeable future and keep hitting it as the sex is outstanding. Maybe it will fizzle out eventually, but due to some of her actions this past time I have decided to put my guard up a bit more which I think she wants as well.

Originally Posted by WiseOldApe

How do you know she doesn't?

I think she does, hence why you get those sharp pains in your chest.

I have those as well, and at this point, I get those from talking to people, and usually when I see a little facial expression change in their face to signal a negative emotion, I feel the sharp pain in the chest. I've had the same pain, turned around and she was looking at me. I've been getting those pains randomly through the last year and a half.

I reckon she still thinks of you and that's what that pain is.

Keep working on your self dude, it's the best.

I can actually tell when a chick wants to bang and can intuit what other people are thinking, etc.

We're all one consciousness - break free of the illusion.

Lol, sometime in the past few years I picked up the ability to tell when a random chick wants to bang(as well as becoming very good at reading body language and all kinds of different things) as well. It's a great feeling, as it keeps you from wasting so much time chasing pussy and just waiting for a sign and making a quick move. Wish I had these skills back in college.