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    Im new here

    Hey community,

    I am looking at youtube videos and looking at people's story's.
    Im 169 pounds now at a hight of 5.7. My BF% is about 20-25% now and im turning 33 this month.
    Despite having all the things in the world (family, kid, steady job, homegym) I seem to be missing something. And when i am feeling down im starting to eat unhealthy or snack alot.
    I used to be skinny, then i became overweight (190 pounds with 30% BF).
    And it goes up and down ever since.

    In my past i was bullied alot, first for being small, then when i got bigger for being big. People always called me names and stuff that made me really insecure. I still have that negative voice in my head ever since. in 7 years ive lost a little weight through all the ups and downs.

    I do an upper/lower split and I even have a food/nutrition scheme but i just cant seem to find any drive anymore. Im just doing what needs to be done but not with a smile. Im looking in the mirror and im sad, about how I look, my waist band and everything is just not how i want to look at myself.

    Do you guys/girls have any tips/advice/anything for me?
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    Welcome here! First off, good work on keeping your chin up through it all. No one should ever have to endure name-calling and bullying like that. It sounds like it still affects you, but not to the extent that it could or had done so before. The way they treated you was wrong, and it was not your fault. Not your fault, man.

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    As for motivation, especially now in your 30s with a family, job, and child (me, too!), external motivation probably isn't much of a thing anymore. Motivation has to be internal. If you can tap into that and build some momentum (i.e. in fat loss and strength training), great. If not, try to maintain what healthy habits you can so you're moving in the right direction, even if it's a snail's pace and you're not necessarily laser-focused on some body composition goal. (Changing a few habits won't result in 1.5lbs of fat loss a week, but a pound lost every month or two is still better than moving in the opposite direction.)

    In short, what motivates you? Is it setting rep PRs? Is it seeing a leaner version of yourself in the mirror? Or, is it the idea of physical self-improvement/self-help? Or, is it something more meaningful, perhaps linked to being a better example for your significant other or child? Whatever you do, making it sustainable will always yield better results in the long run. In other words, the results from some extreme diet one could only last three weeks on will pale in comparison to a far "less sexy" diet that they can go three months on without it feeling like a chore, even if they were only losing a few pounds a month. (An aside: If you blow it one day because you overate and didn't hit your calories or macros, don't sweat it. Just enjoy it without letting it become a full-on binge, and start fresh the next day. Don't do what I used to do: Damn. I'm 300 calories over my target. Well, this day is screwed, so I might as well polish off this thigh-sized bin full of peanut-butter filled pretzels. In other words, don't let a small failure become the excuse for a binge. The setback of the small failure itself is miniscule, while the binge I scapegoated on it did the real damage of 1000+ calories. Far more than once, unfortunately. Ask yourself why you're making the decisions - good or bad - that you're about to make. That metacognition can go a long way to making better choices when you realize why you're making the choices you make.)

    The answers are somewhere within yourself. The fact that you're looking and trying means you've already taken the first few steps. Best of luck, make good choices, and stay positive, my man.
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    Originally Posted by 66jzmstr View Post
    As for motivation, especially now in your 30s with a family, job, and child (me, too!), external motivation probably isn't much of a thing anymore. Motivation has to be internal. If you can tap into that and build some momentum (i.e. in fat loss and strength training), great. If not, try to maintain what healthy habits you can so you're moving in the right direction, even if it's a snail's pace and you're not necessarily laser-focused on some body composition goal. (Changing a few habits won't result in 1.5lbs of fat loss a week, but a pound lost every month or two is still better than moving in the opposite direction.)

    In short, what motivates you? Is it setting rep PRs? Is it seeing a leaner version of yourself in the mirror? Or, is it the idea of physical self-improvement/self-help? Or, is it something more meaningful, perhaps linked to being a better example for your significant other or child? Whatever you do, making it sustainable will always yield better results in the long run. In other words, the results from some extreme diet one could only last three weeks on will pale in comparison to a far "less sexy" diet that they can go three months on without it feeling like a chore, even if they were only losing a few pounds a month. (An aside: If you blow it one day because you overate and didn't hit your calories or macros, don't sweat it. Just enjoy it without letting it become a full-on binge, and start fresh the next day. Don't do what I used to do: Damn. I'm 300 calories over my target. Well, this day is screwed, so I might as well polish off this thigh-sized bin full of peanut-butter filled pretzels. In other words, don't let a small failure become the excuse for a binge. The setback of the small failure itself is miniscule, while the binge I scapegoated on it did the real damage of 1000+ calories. Far more than once, unfortunately. Ask yourself why you're making the decisions - good or bad - that you're about to make. That metacognition can go a long way to making better choices when you realize why you're making the choices you make.)

    The answers are somewhere within yourself. The fact that you're looking and trying means you've already taken the first few steps. Best of luck, make good choices, and stay positive, my man.
    Thank you so much man! I appreciate it alot! I didnt get any message that you replied to my post so im sorry for reacting this late.
    I have set my goals now and i want to bench/ DL and squat my own bodyweight first: 169lbs and then move forward. I am alot more positive this week, Its winter time and thats my time of t he year haha. I love the cold, snow and frost so its definitly my gametime haha. Thanks alot for replying! I will do my best!
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    Originally Posted by SirLotOfExcuses View Post
    Thank you so much man! I appreciate it alot! I didnt get any message that you replied to my post so im sorry for reacting this late.
    I have set my goals now and i want to bench/ DL and squat my own bodyweight first: 169lbs and then move forward. I am alot more positive this week, Its winter time and thats my time of t he year haha. I love the cold, snow and frost so its definitly my gametime haha. Thanks alot for replying! I will do my best!
    Sure thing! And the reply is not late at all. (I can almost guarantee my replies will be slower!)

    I look forward to checking in on your progress every so often, and feel free to drop by my fat loss log as well, My Second Leangains Cut. I'm by no means an expert, but this is my second proper cut, and things are going well so far, so drop by for a hello or to bounce ideas off of.

    Best of luck to you!
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