Thread: Mental health issues?

Originally Posted by Austin317

I’ve been on and off dating apps for years and I’ve met some real nice girls from there. Some things have ended due to my own fault rather than theirs. It’s just lately I’m having instances of women telling me they have mental health issues which I’ve not encountered before.

Smash and dash my friend or you're regret it.

I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated...i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man

Originally Posted by chivasregal

I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated...i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man

I had a similar experience, less the violence.

Old women > 26 or so are littered with mental health issues. Always screen them in dates. Even if they are “anecdotally” bipolar, leave.

Originally Posted by chivasregal

I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated...i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man

Doesn't sound like bipolar at all. Violence and inability to deal with conflict aren't symptomatic of bipolar.

Bipolar = Manic episodes lasting for days or weeks characterised by extreme creativity, excitement and very short or absent periods of sleep plus irrationality; followed by bouts of crippling depression, meaning not "bummed out" depression but "can't summon energy to talk or eat" depression.

Originally Posted by Austin317

So what y’all saying is you get out of there as soon as a chick tells you she has mental health issues or as soon as you see a trait of a mental health issue too? I’ve been made to feel bad for my attitude of getting out of there as quick as I can as soon as I’m told they have health issues but I don’t see the point in trying anything serious with somebody like that. I don’t want to be a therapist for someone.

I've tried to make it work longer term with damaged women. It doesn't end well ever. You'll never make them happy and they're always be somebody else in the picture. If a woman isn't stable and secure in her own life don't try to enter any kind of long-term relationship with them. Unstable unhappy unpleasable women will just take you for a ride and suck the energy out of your soul.

I got limited experience on this topic so take my words with a grain of salt but I think social media simply made it easier for the average joe or the average girl to meet folks with mental health issues. I don't think the number has drastically changed per say. It's just that more people are hip to the culture and people with underlying issues are going to be drawn to online dating especially because they can hide who they really are. I personally believe online dating has always been a cesspool of folks with underlying issues. Nothing you can do about that but be pickier with the girls you date. This is why I personally avoid sleeping with girls early on because I know I will get attached and I don't wanna get attached to a girl that is trying her best to hide her mental issues.

There is also a wider societal acceptance of mental health issues nowadays. People are more open about their issues, hence making it appear as if mental health issues are on the rise even tho I'm willing to bet that the numbers haven't really changed. Look at it as if it was a murder. If you don't learn about the murder, did it still happen? It's kinda the same thing here.

I would also add that it is more imperative than ever that you vet women today. This also applies to dudes you meet and decided to befriend. I personally believe we live in a day and age where "real" friends and "real" relationships are hard to come by because of social media. People will do anything for a few seconds of pleasure because most people are thinking short-term and not long-term. Vetting is super important