Thread: Do Girls Who Don't Flirt With "Male Friends" Fukking Exist? (SRS)

I'm not a controlling guy lol, don't care if a girl has platonic male friends who are ACTUALLY platonic and not "will they wont they" or "they fukked each other accidentally once while drunk", we live in a free country.

But I've added a lot of Tinder/Hinge/Bumble girls on Instagram, Facebook etc. lately and pretty much EVERY single one of them has about 5 or 10 male friends flirting with her on every other fukking pic, and her commenting back flirtily, lapping up the attention. This is even true of the hotter chicks who probably don't need to boost their self esteem any more, or the ones who seem like more "one of the guys", laid-back and less stereotypically girly girl.

I am actually sick of this lmao, it's such a turn off - I've just started my first grad job and while at uni I would have been happy to smash and dash/casually date these sloots, I'm not going to entertain this kind of slootery any more. I actually went on a date with a Tinder sloot the other day, was drunk and let slip I prefer women with a low slay count - all of a sudden a girl who was bragging "If I come in late to work tomorrow my boss will know it was because of a guy (me this time, but probably 10 other cawks the previous times)" was saying "Just kidding, I barely even make out with guys these days, I'm really inexperienced!"

Is online dating just full of trashy sloots? Is that the mistake I'm making? I want a high quality woman, not someone who likes keeping "just male friends tehe" around and sending flirty heart eyes messages into 20 of their DMs. Yeah, I could probably compete aesthetically etc. with the vast majority of these guys - but WTF should I have to just to prove myself to some bish?

Cliffs:
-every other sloot I add off Tinder/Bumble/Hinge etc. asks me to add them on social media and has a laundry list of "just male friends tehe" on there, flirting with her on every pic and with her flirting back. God knows what's going down in their DMs.

-Is it impossible to find women who don't do this chit these days, or am I just wasting time looking for a serious high quality prize doesn't sleep around material type on online dating?

At this point in societies timeline you'd be hard-pressed to find any female that doesn't have a single male friend. I simply tell them that I'm not a controlling dude and trust them but if I find out they've been sleeping with them while we were dating and or they fuarked in the past I 100% of the time break it off. I'm not gonna live with the thought of my girl being fuked by a dude she brings to friend gatherings and have to shake his hand. They gotta choose between him or me. No buts. If he's just some friend and they've never banged I don't care. But anything romantic and or sexual involved and I'm out of the door personally.

Recently the girl I've been dating for almost 2 months now (in 10 days it's gonna be 2 months), told me she was going to workout with a guy best friend. Like any sane dude I was kinda shocked because why would any sane person subject the person they are dating to that level of jealousy. She quickly told me the dude already had a girlfriend (I respected her for the transparency) and I told her I trust her. Whatever happened during that workout session is beyond me but she did tell me they ran outside and walked a bit. However, If I found out she slept with him or she was flat out lying I'd leave her.

I personally don't have females friends and would never go into the same room with a female one on one in a relationship. So I'm kinda like Mike Pence when it comes to those things. It's just a shame that a lot of women can't reciprocate that same level of respect. I don't want the girl I'm dating to be jealous. But at the end of the day I consider myself a nice guy and do what I deem respectful and what I deem to make me happy.

Trust Op. Trust is required in any relationship. They'll show you how trustful they are with their actions. It's easier to lose trust then building it.

"Cliffs:
-every other sloot I add off Tinder/Bumble/Hinge etc. asks me to add them on social media and has a laundry list of "just male friends tehe" on there, flirting with her on every pic and with her flirting back. God knows what's going down in their DMs."

I have no clue about this because I literally know zero women in their 20s. I will say if they are already on a dating site, they're presumably more likely to be using other social media so you may be selecting for it to some extent. So you may try to want to meet women IRL which means building a social network and cold approaching.

What you describe sounds like a total drag though.

If you're not officially dating them, then you're both free to do as you wish. Just because you have a first date with someone doesn't mean they're off the market. I'm saying this as someone who doesn't do what you're describing in the OP, but also knows that until you have that kind of discussion about other people you're both free to do as you wish.

Originally Posted by Legz422

If you're not officially dating them, then you're both free to do as you wish. Just because you have a first date with someone doesn't mean they're off the market. I'm saying this as someone who doesn't do what you're describing in the OP, but also knows that until you have that kind of discussion about other people you're both free to do as you wish.

Ok what’s you’re though on “alleged” platonic male friends when you and a girl are in a serious relationship?

My issue is my GF can be Mary
Mother of god and I can trust her with the world BUT I know the male she’s “friends” with 9/10 has another agenda

Originally Posted by Tough92

Ok what’s you’re though on “alleged” platonic male friends when you and a girl are in a serious relationship?

My issue is my GF can be Mary
Mother of god and I can trust her with the world BUT I know the male she’s “friends” with 9/10 has another agenda

I think that if it makes the other person uncomfortable then they shouldn't keep opposite sex friends. They also should not be meeting that person IRL one on one.

Originally Posted by Legz422

I think that if it makes the other person uncomfortable then they shouldn't keep opposite sex friends. They also should not be meeting that person IRL one on one.

That’s how I feel thank you.

Yeah OP, males “friends” are 100% BS in my opinion. They wanna fuk, even if she doesn’t (if they are single).
... to be fair, I know some guy/girl friendships that are just that, but it’s very rare.

It’s a problem that girls keep male friends around, but like other miscers say it’s hard to find one who doesn’t.

The girl I’m seeing currently has guy friends as well. She never see them
1v1 and to my knowledge they havn’t texted her or commented anything inappropriate. So we’ll see how it goes. The girls I’ve seen in the past had no guys friends, srs, so this is new and I’m giving it a chance. (It will be good practise to notice red flags with other girls who have guy friends if it indeed goes wrong).

I hold her responsible for anything her guy friends do. If one tries to kiss her, I view it as she giving him the impression that she would kiss back, or that she at least flirted enough with him for him to wanna kiss her etc.
Basically, I hold her responsible for their actions towards her and will break up with her if they do anything that crosses my line.
The reasoning being, that if she doesn’t trust them NOT to try anything, it’s disrespectful to keep talking with them.

No woman is 100% faithful, no matter how big or small your the situation, your wife/gf is doing something you wouldn't approve of behind your back at some point in time.

To make it simple OP, no they don't exist.

Originally Posted by sweetneybrian

No woman is 100% faithful, no matter how big or small your the situation, your wife/gf is doing something you wouldn't approve of behind your back at some point in time.

To make it simple OP, no they don't exist.

That's fukking bullchit! give an example of what you're talking about.

Originally Posted by Legz422

That's fukking bullchit! give an example of what you're talking about.

99% of miscers have no idea what they are talking about. You expect him to give you an example or back his claim up with science backed data?

Originally Posted by Legz422

That's fukking bullchit! give an example of what you're talking about.

Why's an example needed. Do you honestly believe that if you had a hidden camera follow your significant other filming every single female interaction that'd you'd be completely comfortable with everything you saw. Feel free to lie and say that you would but let's be honest....

This isn't me saying every chick is throwing herself at men or every guy is begging the hot chick at work for a bj, but to say you'd be fine with everything your other half does when you aren't around is bullchit. Whether it be making a sly innuendo or hugging that weirdo from the mailroom that has a crush on her for too long.

Originally Posted by MirinCanadian99

...or they fuarked in the past I 100% of the time break it off.

Yup been there, done that.

Originally Posted by Mr Beer

I have no clue about this because I literally know zero women in their 20s. I will say if they are already on a dating site, they're presumably more likely to be using other social media so you may be selecting for it to some extent. So you may try to want to meet women IRL which means building a social network and cold approaching.

Correct, there are women out there that don't engage vapidly with horny men, but they probably aren't on these online dating sites for the most part.

Quality women literally recoil at online dating experiences, srs.

The only way you'll find a quality woman there, is if she just signed up 2 days ago and you meet her before she deletes her account.

Originally Posted by MirinCanadian99

Recently the girl I've been dating for almost 2 months now (in 10 days it's gonna be 2 months), told me she was going to workout with a guy best friend. Like any sane dude I was kinda shocked because why would any sane person subject the person they are dating to that level of jealousy. She quickly told me the dude already had a girlfriend (I respected her for the transparency) and I told her I trust her. Whatever happened during that workout session is beyond me but she did tell me they ran outside and walked a bit. However, If I found out she slept with him or she was flat out lying I'd leave her.

It's just suspect. Nothing physical probably happened, but women can still get that emotional high if there's chemistry or if he's interested. Men care more about physical cheating and vice versa.

Like I said before, it's incredibly difficult to fully separate harmless friendship from the sexual tension that inevitably arises. If he's straight, and she's decent looking I'm 99.9% confident on this one.

In b4 Rabbitjb defends this as okay.

Originally Posted by DarthCholo

If all her male "friends" on social media are first dates that didn't work out, why keep them as friends? What's the purpose? Validation , future backup plans, friend with benefits?. Do you really think girls cut them off when they get into a relationship?

Validation, acutely. IDK if you noticed this but most women are incredibly insecure, and need consistent validation to maintain ego. Men too, but generally to a lesser extent.

Behind that desire for validation (maintaining orbiters) is a pretty convincing evolutionary theory about having backups. Particularly the type of men that will commit resources if Plan A falls through.

Originally Posted by Luc1fer

It's just suspect. Nothing physical probably happened, but women can still get that emotional high if there's chemistry or if he's interested. Men care more about physical cheating and vice versa.

Like I said before, it's incredibly difficult to fully separate harmless friendship from the sexual tension that inevitably arises. If he's straight, and she's decent looking I'm 99.9% confident on this one.

In b4 Rabbitjb defends this as okay.

It was definitely suspect at first and I think she realized that it made me feel some kind of way which is why she told me the dude already had a girlfriend. But I'm willing to bet the dudes girlfriend was also very jealous or was disturbed a bit by the idea. I like to give the benefit of the doubt to people and like to trust them unless proven otherwise. However if it does become a reoccurring thing I'll probably communicate it with her. However it's only been almost 2 months we've been dating and we do act like a semi-couple and are exclusive but don't consider ourselves an official couple yet and we don't use I love you. So I can't really act like a boyfriend but it did rub me some sort of way.

It's just sad that females and even dudes have this need for friends of the opposite sex.

Originally Posted by DBoyDaRealest

Why do you talk all that chit about loyalty and dating, "good girls" but then your gf does this to you even AFTER you expressed that you wasn't ok with it??

Also, why doesn't she just go gym with you?

you got personal-time mogged and fitness mogged by a dude with a gf.

You'll rationalize or twist any event in your head as some example of "trust" or what's "right" in a relationship, but you have no sway over this girl or respect clearly.

It was her first time doing it. I told her that I trust her but it seemed odd. If it happens again I'll have a more in depth conversation. I'm not a controlling dude and believe trust is important. They've been best friends for a longer time and I'm just some dude she knows for almost 2 months. Who is she gonna pick?

She didn't really go to the gym. They did a workout circuit outside (they are in the same class at school and are in the same program) (I'm also in her program but I live 30 mins away by car). We are going to workout together this Saturday.

Personal-time mogged and fitness mogged? I saw her the afternoon of that same day and as mentioned above we are gonna workout this Saturday.

I know she's a good girl because she quite clearly told me the dude had a girlfriend so the chances of him doing something is 0.1%. We had a conversation after the fact and we made ourselves clear. If I learn that the dude was a prior ex or she had sexual relations with him I'll leave her. In this case I don't wanna come to any to conclusions or come off as paranoid.

Originally Posted by sweetneybrian

Why's an example needed. Do you honestly believe that if you had a hidden camera follow your significant other filming every single female interaction that'd you'd be completely comfortable with everything you saw. Feel free to lie and say that you would but let's be honest....

This isn't me saying every chick is throwing herself at men or every guy is begging the hot chick at work for a bj, but to say you'd be fine with everything your other half does when you aren't around is bullchit. Whether it be making a sly innuendo or hugging that weirdo from the mailroom that has a crush on her for too long.

I am a woman and I call bullchit to what you said. When I'm in a relationship I do nothing inappropriate with other men. Not one thing to catch if I were followed 24/7.

Originally Posted by DarthCholo

Agree nobody owes anybody anything after first date.

But

If all her male "friends" on social media are first dates that didn't work out, why keep them as friends? What's the purpose? Validation , future backup plans, friend with benefits?. Do you really think girls cut them off when they get into a relationship?

Don't really know as I don't do that, but I'd guess validation.

So I don’t believe the OP has responded since he made the thread BUT what is the verdict here?

Is this something we live with if it’s possible present? It seems even the goodest of girls will have a beta orbiter in a work setting and she can be 100% platonic with him but he may have another agenda.

Remember the #1 thing you should never ever do is show a girl you’re jealous in any way shape or form.

That being said Is it something you address or something you leave out? Granted different situations can arise.