Thread: She thinks I’m stalking her

used to see this girl in campus last year.

Matched w her on tinder. Told her that I’ve seen her. she wished that I talked to her. I deleted tinder.

This month, I kept seeing her so I approached her twice, she smiled and told me she’s busy doing hw.

The next day, an officer came to talk to me because she reported me as a stalker.

I’m worried about my safety. Should I transfer college?

I would just steer clear of her altogether as much as you can. You shouldn't have to switch colleges because she's there. Just don't approach her and stay away. She sounds like one of those feminist me too types.

Originally Posted by DustinTheHuss

I would just steer clear of her altogether as much as you can. You shouldn't have to switch colleges because she's there. Just don't approach her and stay away. She sounds like one of those feminist me too types.

I’ve no intention to talk to her at all.

The problem I’m scared to run into her weather on street, dining hall,coffee shop and so on. We pretty much have the same lifestyle.

I think she has never been outside her family house and never socialized. She thinks I’m stalking her bc we run to each other a lot

Just turn the tables on her and get a restraining order before she does, that'll teach her

I’m not trying to teach her lessons or whatso. All I need is to live in peace.

With this type of behavior, it’s hard to predict what’s next she will do.

I’m thinking to go home out of state since my classes are online.

Should I hire a lawyer? Should I contact the officer and show him my receipts from last year to prove I’ve been going to the same places before I even know her?

Should I show them the tinder conversation? I’ve screenshot of them

That sucks OP.

I'd say calmly approach her and tell her y'all don't need to be acquaintances but what she did was unnecessary and in the future all she needs to do is tell someone she's not interested rather than going to extreme measures for no reason. Then end on a good note and wish her good luck the rest of the semester or something.

Originally Posted by skinnyfat88

That sucks OP.

I'd say calmly approach her and tell her y'all don't need to be acquaintances but what she did was unnecessary and in the future all she needs to do is tell someone she's not interested rather than going to extreme measures for no reason. Then end on a good note and wish her good luck the rest of the semester or something.

Hi, going to talk to her will never happen.

When I approached her, she was smiling and told me she’s busy writing paper, I said good luck and left. Even though she came to the coffee with her seeing me sitting there.

The next day, I was sitting on dining hall waiting my food, when she entered, I approached her and told her I’m sitting there if she wants to eat.

Told me she has paper to write. I told her good luck and left.

She reported me

Btw, I saw some guy staring at me when I approached Her. They were outside looking at me and I knew they r talking chit behind my back. I decided not to talk to her anymore but the next day the police came to me.

Originally Posted by Rattelsnake

Going home is an option, but it better be only for financial reasons, not because of her. Why wouldn't you want to teach her a lesson? She wronged you and needs to be educated (calmly) on what she did wrong, so she doesn't do it again.

Omwd999, this is excellent growth opportunity for you to get good at handling women who abuse their power. Unfortunately men your generation will likely cross paths with women like this quite for some time into the future. This may be your first encounter, but it won't be your last. You may encounter this again in the workforce. And until men get so fed up with it, they turn the tide, and say enough's enough, it will probably keep going for some time.



I didn't realize you had the option of speaking to the same officer. Yes, most definitely make that appointment with the officer and present your receipts, class schedule, tinder texts. Most definitely stand your ground and explain your side of the story. You need to bring someone over your side to counter her defamation and restore back your good name/reputation. I wouldn't bother with the lawyer. It may be an important life-skills learning opportunity, but not that serious.

Hi, life will teach this girl a hardcore lesson. This is my 5th year and she’s in her second. I’m pretty sure she never dealt with guys before that will never take no for an answer.

If she gave a hint, I’ll take one. But She never said don’t talk to me or leave me alone. Reported me directly.

I don’t care about her now, I care about my safety. I hear horror stories from guys getting accused and their life goes down bc of women.

Going home I believe is the best option. Incase this girl accuses me I’m not around her. I never had social media communication with her which is good.

I tried to talk to the officer again, he was really really understanding and he said she was having emotional breakdown and scared. He told me not worry about anything and just leave her alone and never speak to her even if I run into her.

I believe him, but I don’t feel safe seeing this girl at all. She might accuse me later on or something

Originally Posted by Rattelsnake

See, that's also an opportunity for you to build alliances and use that as an opening to exchange intel. Next time you see them, inquire if they remember seeing you talk to her and they had any dealings with her previously. Alert them to her mental instability and let them know to keep their heads up and watch out with her. If they date her, they better video/record everything. They can thank you later. You guys will have to do this once you get into the workforce anyway, alert each other on which women to watch out for, so may as well start practicing alliance-building skills now.

U r right. However it’s not my job to fix the world nor how she thinks. Also it’s not my responsibility to warn the other guys of her mental issues.

I don’t think she’s Feminist nor any type of this movement. I’m sure she is not used to talking to people and never had experience to interacted with guys before.

With her behavior, she is most likely to run into serious problems with guys specially her using hookups apps. She lost her credibility by reporting me in the first place which didn’t make sense at all

Originally Posted by Rattelsnake

Correct, it's not your job to fix the world nor warn others. I don't know your previous dealings with those people or why you brought them up, if that was a threat assessment or what the deal was. I just know keeping an optimal ally:adversary ratio has been what works the best for me, so I thought I'd throw it out there. I could have read that part wrong though.

It doesn't matter if she does not pro-actively identify as a feminist. A woman can still be a threat without being part of any movement. I wish I could say, it's just a one-off and it won't happen again. Unfortunately, I've heard too many cases like this and it just seems a very systemic problem in modern day society, which quite honestly disturbs and saddens me. Either way, problem solved at least with that one.

Since last year, before I even match w her on tinder, I feel like someone watching me & when I turn, it’s her staring at me. I get really strange vibes from her.

When We matched, I said that I’ve seen her. she wished that I could’ve said hi & talked to her. She denied seeing me though but told me I was a cute!

When I respectfully approached her by running into her, she didn’t say She never told me to leave her alone or whatso.

Completely reported me. Like wtf.

Originally Posted by memcop

I always stop advances on my chick while in uniform. Cop brah smashing

From now and on, I’ll never approach girls.I think men shouldn’t initiate.

Originally Posted by 0mwd999

Should I hire a lawyer? Should I contact the officer and show him my receipts from last year to prove I’ve been going to the same places before I even know her?

Should I show them the tinder conversation? I’ve screenshot of them

You don't need to do anything that's overreacting.

Just stop speaking to her and continue your life as normal, no drama.

I know what I’d do.

Just not care and live your life. What are the odds of seeing her...if you do, look past her and keep walking.

She’s nothing

You care too much bro

Originally Posted by Ninshark

get a gf fast, and when she sees you with a girl, no way she can say anything. sucks man, that's garbage for sure. Hate it when the girl is all horny and stuff and then charges you with rape later. gives me the same vibes as your story man...

I wish I could, but not going to throw myself on any one to just show off. I hope you know what I’m saying

Originally Posted by snailsrus

I literally would have never gone on a date if men didn’t approach none the less even just kiss a guy

I did approach her and I got reported.

I’ve screenshot of tinder conversation that she wished I talked to her. This is crazy

Originally Posted by exyl

I know what I’d do.

Just not care and live your life. What are the odds of seeing her...if you do, look past her and keep walking.

She’s nothing

You care too much bro

What if I get accused again of stalking? I literally see her almost everyday and since then I’ve been changing my lifestyle.