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    Staying Motivated and Overcoming Discouragement

    I'm going to get right to it. First, let's discuss the one thing that discourages us the most -- fear. Fear is the central emotion connected to the lack of courage. It's the main cause of anxiety. And, it's the number one motivation killer! Most people don't even think about courage when they're thinking about motivation. When I think of courage, I think of boldness, audacity, ferociousness, bravery, assertiveness, and all the things it takes to stay motivated. You see, fear is the antithesis of courage. Although I believe fear is an imperative emotion, because it's the emotion that generally keeps us out of harm's way, it's also an emotion that can completely deplete our will, and our desire to thrive and prosper!

    The best way to stay motivated is to discover what you're afraid of, and face those fears. When it comes to health and fitness goals, I know most people are afraid of not seeing results. They see body builders and fitness models, and believe those people are demonstrations of perfection. Let me tell you guys, there is no such thing as perfection, as it pertains to the human form. We're ALL imperfect! There are 8 billion people on this planet, and there are ZERO flawless specimens! If you're afraid that you won't see results, simply keep working until you do, regardless of how long it takes! Set PERSONAL goals based on your PERSONAL physique. Don't try to model yourself after a model. I don't want to delve too deep into science, but we're all genetically configured to look exactly how we look. However, our bodies have maintenance demands much like many inanimate objects we use on a daily basis. For instance, windows are difficult to view from if they're not cleaned regularly. By the same token, your body won't function optimally unless you maintain it. Now, you don't have to be made of the highest quality glass, you can even be covered in scratches and nicks, but as long as you're clean you'll function as you should.

    I'm happy to share my perspectives with you guys, I love this stuff! Please reply, let's discuss this further!
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    Intelligent and thoughtful post! But I can make the opposite "argument"...that the closer an achiever is to their goals, the more mental resistance ("fear") they are met with.

    I'll make this "brief." I have always achieved good results from my weight lifting and fitness regimens throughout the years. This naturally led to increased confidence levels in my abilities and a "bolder" approach in the gym...which then led to pushing myself beyond physical limitations on a regular basis, working through injury without too much reservation. Luckily, I never needed surgery, PT, reoccurring specialist visits, etc...so I could possibly say I was taking calculated risks instead of being overly "egotistical." But, due to these injuries, I do experience more trepidation and "fear" whenever I go for certain lifts now...because I know how hard it is to "turn off" a naturally competitive spirit in oneself...I don't want that to deter me. So, sometimes "courage" can be a double-edged sword...
    When I hear people say, " You should tone down your physique," I know I've achieved my fitness New Year's resolution:)

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    I must admit I no longer want to look like Mr Olympia and accept that I never will.

    The thing that discourages me is not fear of lack of progress, but rather a feeling of whether it's all worth it. I've lifted a few times in the past and usually give up after 2 or 3 years, mainly because I reach a point where I think, "Is all this effort actually worth it?"

    That is something I think I'll always find difficult to overcome. The effort does seem worth it after 6 months or even a year, but how you stay motivated for longer I don't know.

    I bumped into an old gym buddy recently and he's continued lifting over the last 10 years during which time I gave up. He said the thing that kept him going was the fear of losing everything he's invested (diet and training wise). Whereas with me I tend to literally wake up one morning and think, "I don't really care for this any longer"
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    Originally Posted by MrCarrot View Post
    I must admit I no longer want to look like Mr Olympia and accept that I never will.

    The thing that discourages me is not fear of lack of progress, but rather a feeling of whether it's all worth it. I've lifted a few times in the past and usually give up after 2 or 3 years, mainly because I reach a point where I think, "Is all this effort actually worth it?"

    That is something I think I'll always find difficult to overcome. The effort does seem worth it after 6 months or even a year, but how you stay motivated for longer I don't know.

    I bumped into an old gym buddy recently and he's continued lifting over the last 10 years during which time I gave up. He said the thing that kept him going was the fear of losing everything he's invested (diet and training wise). Whereas with me I tend to literally wake up one morning and think, "I don't really care for this any longer"
    I can relate to your gym buddy, Mr. Carrot! Like him, I've invested a lot of time, effort and devotion into this "hobby" of mine over the years- never "letting up," unless unique circumstances (extended family medical emergencies, MAJOR work schedule conflicts, etc) absolutely forced me too. I feel I've even sacrificed certain relationships and other "passions" of mine, in order to give enough energy towards this "lifestyle." But I don't regret those "sacrifices," even though I've never pursued "Ms. Olympia"...I'm not sure that was my goal from the beginning. I do admire the competitors (BB fitness and Crossfit), but it's been enough just to compete with myself and have a "suitable" physical outlet ...
    When I hear people say, " You should tone down your physique," I know I've achieved my fitness New Year's resolution:)

    Cheers to everyone having 2020 vision/insight this decade...
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    Honestly, I don't look at anyone's physique anymore and think ''I want to look like this person''. Most people are pushed back by fear and doubt. Fear to the point where the individual thinks that his or her effort being put in is going to null because they expect themselves to look like their so called ''idol'' but can't due to the fact of both genetics and enhancers. Most people fear what they shouldn't and that's the results because the effort you put in is going to give you what you already earned in the end. You honestly can't complain that you didn't gain alot of muscle or lose alot of weight if you only gave it your 50% throughout the entire journey. Most people also fear the challenges in the journey they take but it's as I tell everyone who has this mindset; Would you rather prefer everything easy coming your way to the point where you don't learn anything or would you rather work hard to attain something you can be proud of from the effort you put into it and strengthen your physical and mental self? People need to understand nothing good ever came from easy except a feeling of false-comfortability and false-security just pretty much pushing you into a comfort zone.

    Fear is one side of the coin and then you got doubt, which I think is honestly more severe because it just delves deep into the mindset of the individual and makes them think they can't do things that they manage to find out that they can after pushing past it. Doubt is severe to the case where it makes a person think they're worthless to the task and that they don't have what it takes so what occurs? they just skip it and don't even try to attempt it. That's the worst part of doubt; turning any task down due to the fact that ''you think you don't have what it takes'' but honestly speaking, how do you know you don't have what it takes if you don't even attempt to try it at least once? Quote from my signature honestly rings true. Rather try and fail then fail to try because you won't figure out what you need to improve on to finally SUCCEED.

    When people are at the point where it feels the work they put in is for nothing; they need to look back to see why they started in the first place and also understand that if they stop anytime soon, they will lose all the time, sweat and effort they put in to get to this stage. It's like running a marathon, coming in first place then just slowly dropping down from first to second, third, fourth and finally being the person coming last. It's better to just keep the pace going and keep moving forward. Another quote I attained from a tv-show which was translated from russian is ''The shark that does not swim, drowns'' - If you don't keep moving forward with your goals or your life in general- you will eventually come to a halt where you'll be nothing but depressed and just die mentally (and in some cases physically depending on how far you let yourself go).

    If one thing can be taken from this, it's that your life is your own; no point trying to exceed other peoples expectations, only try to exceed yours on a daily basis. Be motivated by your own reasons; not by the reasons of others and do it at your own pace. Remember why you started in the beginning if you feel demotivated throughout your journey and understand that it's time and effort being required to be put in to attain the results you're striving for.

    Also one more thing I'd like to point out; sure it might not be a direct reason but understand that the effort and time you put in attaining the physique you currently are also motivates other people as-well giving them that understanding that they too can also strive for a goal they set for themselves. It's nothing to do with expectation but the visual appearance that ''if he/she can do it, why can't I?''
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