Thread: No contact experiences after being dumped for someone else ??

I am in HARD no contact for about two weeks now more for myself to move forward after ex girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a guy she met on vacation last month and they already say they love each other and moved in together.

Just want to find out other peoples experiences with going No contact and if it made your ex try and come back or if they even ever contacted you again? . Regardless if you wanted them back or not or vice versa ?

If so how long did it take?

Originally Posted by moeconfused

I am in HARD no contact for about two weeks now more for myself to move forward after ex girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a guy she met on vacation last month and they already say they love each other and moved in together.

Just want to find out other peoples experiences with going No contact and if it made your ex try and come back or if they even ever contacted you again? . Regardless if you wanted them back or not or vice versa ?

If so how long did it take?

They dont come back, you have to move on, its hard to accept but you need to use this as a point to make yourself better in every aspect.

But its fukking tough, I know

The whole point of NC is to heal yourself and to help yourself move on. It's not so that you can wallow around wondering when she's going to contact you again. The majority of the time, she probably won't. You need to get over hoping your phone's gonna vibrate with her asking for forgiveness because that's not going to happen. Delete her number, block on her all social media (vital), and just take life day by day. It'll get better and you'll stop thinking about it.

She is never coming back, and if she did, you would be a fool to take her.

Would not give a single f*ck, especially if she left me for someone else, life goes on with or without her.

We were long distance because i'm in Med school. She left me 2 days right after I flew across country to be with her at her best friends wedding last month and she asked when i would propose to her because she feels times running out and getting older, she's 26. I said I need to finish med school first so my life would be more stable.

Anyway she left me 2 days later for a guy she just met on vacation visiting family and says their in "love" already and sees a more steady future with him and he moved to Florida from New York to be with her already, so their both moving extremely fast which is bat **** crazy to her says her family and friends. Hes a couple years older and has family money and now they live together and say their in "love" after a month and her just being in a 4yr relationship.

She called 3 weeks after saying she was confused, not sure if she made right choice and she wasn't over me but tried to convince herself she was and that if we were living together everything would have worked out because everyone knew we were truly in love and that hopes she wont regret this for the rest of her life but still with him, I haven't contacted her at all since than.

I know i could never take her back after this because i wouldn't respect myself if i did. I'm just in a huge state of confusion right now. Holding strong almost 2 wks of No Contact which is alot harder than i thought.

Holy crap, they met for one month and she dumped you and moved in with him. Dude did you miss all the signs leading up in 4 YEARS. Dudes get too comfy these days, there are some sneaky women out there. But their justification for cheating is usually emotional reasons or man's fault.

DUDE WTF, you are in med school? Finish that shiz, and you will never have to worry about chicks. You are in a better situation then a lot of people man.

She will come back if you stay no contact and don't beg or chase her move on enjoy life and better yourself.It might take a while longer the fact that she's with a new guy now but if you do that and dont beg or chase like a fool she will crawl back .

When she does do not give that bitc* a second chance either stay no contact or reject her you won't even want her by then !

You win bro

OP don't be a phaggot, life is about moving forward go **** some bitches and leave this type of discussion for the women

Situation: Dating for 1.5 years. Towards the end, she made friends with more guys (didn't think of anything about it). Eventually, phucked me off to be with another guy.

Result: She tried to talk to me and become friends again after like a year of NC. Never responded because I got over her.


The point of NC isn't to get them to come back. If they do, then good for you. Main point of it is to disassociate yourself from her, so that IF she does come back, you will be over her and just ignore her. It's done man, the more you talk to her, the more you hurt yourself

I blocked her on every platform possible and she did the same, she even told me the last time I talked to her that she wants to act like I never existed and go into her new relationship like I nvr existed, she's a superficial bitch who was attracted to the new guys money and equal desperation, its her loss in 6 months she could have stayed with me after I graduate med school but i know its a good thing it happened now before I married her. Blows my mind how us not being together has no effect on her but hurts me this much. I know time will heal all things. I have a date lined up this wknd with a cute girl I met on tinder, I'm deternined to forget this sloot.

One thing as you move forward. Forget the dr. Part as you meet people. People change when they find that out. If she asks what you do- you work in health care, and if they ect too nosey mention bed pans. Let them meet you. Drive a Chevy not a Beemer. When I go to class reunions, about 5 have original marriages.

No contact always work. ALWAYS. She will sooner or later contact you...


Sadly, i think in this case, it will be later rather than sooner. By the time she does, and im guessing at least 1+ year time.... you will no longer care. So dont expect to get a text from her in the next few days or weeks.... because its not gonna happen.


So move on... and you will in a few weeks understand why are you being such a fuking dumbass for thinking and being hurt so much because of a girl that dropped your ass after 4 years of RS for some stranger with money. No offense btw... we all been in a similar situation

Originally Posted by caliglow

The whole point of NC is to heal yourself and to help yourself move on. You need to get over hoping your phone's gonna vibrate with her asking for forgiveness.

Amen. Wasted 5 months for this to realise.

Dont get hooked up on her or else u ll just end up being an option.

Thx for all the words of advice everybody, I've come to realize if women can act this cold than ill do the same like I used to be before I met this parasite.

Today was a bad day , nightmares about ex who left me. Still no contact thankfully

Originally Posted by moeconfused

Today was a bad day , nightmares about ex who left me. Still no contact thankfully

You have to trust people that have been there before you brother. Granted we are all just unknown people behind a screen, but we have no reason to lie to you.


IT WILL GET BETTER WITH TIME.

You will thank us later. Stay strong brother

thx for all the advice im having a really hard time proccessing what just happened and my life being turned upside down, but I know it was better now than if I was already married to her, thx brahs

Dont worry Op you be fine.

Originally Posted by Jayy95

Dont worry Op you be fine.

I still do get a rush of thinking that karma will come back to get her and that she will regret discarding me like trash, truth is she might not and her new relationship could work out permanently, thats something i am slowly accepting, girls like her are cowardly and selfish and i need to appreciate the circumstances which removed a person like that out of my life.

Originally Posted by moeconfused

I am in HARD no contact for about two weeks now more for myself to move forward after ex girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a guy she met on vacation last month and they already say they love each other and moved in together.

Just want to find out other peoples experiences with going No contact and if it made your ex try and come back or if they even ever contacted you again? . Regardless if you wanted them back or not or vice versa ?

If so how long did it take?

Bro, I know it's been almost four years but just curious. Did she ever try to contact you or come back?

ex girlfriend of 7 years left me for a girl... yep... Anyway she has constantly messaged me every 2-3 weeks since she left, (6months ago) even after me telling her i didnt want to be friends. She comes up with excuses to contact, i blocked her on facebook, and then she moved contact to email...

Anyway, she contacts... but has not come back. Sloot!

Originally Posted by moeconfused

I am in HARD no contact for about two weeks now more for myself to move forward after ex girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a guy she met on vacation last month and they already say they love each other and moved in together.

Just want to find out other peoples experiences with going No contact and if it made your ex try and come back or if they even ever contacted you again? . Regardless if you wanted them back or not or vice versa ?

If so how long did it take?

She didn't came back, we've been 3 years together. Went in NC after screwing up with lame reactions from myself (I didn't know about all the "how to recover your ex" stuff).
5 months later a friend told me she was pregnant. I kept all her stuff in my appartment while she was waiting for her appartment she bought just before we split.

Move on, go NC, it's over boyo. Be brave, and hold on. I thought I won't be able to love again or find someone great but I did 1 year and a half later. It did not went beyond than 6 months but at least I know I can love someone else. It just takes some time to find another girl.